The New Year is always an exciting time! We get hopeful for what is to come and make resolutions that “this will be the year that I (fill in the blank).” As a counselor and coach, I know how hard it is for people to keep their New Year’s resolutions. I always recommend setting goals, not resolutions!
What’s the difference? Resolutions tend to be vague, big, and have no specific plan on how they will be accomplished. If there is a plan, it tends to be unrealistic. Goals involve action items and accountability. I am a big believer in breaking goals down. Start by making a plan that is specific. Be flexible and establish a time frame that is reasonable. One method people use is the SMART approach to goal setting (Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant and Time Bound). If that works for you, great! If not, here’s how to keep it simple.
Consider starting with small goals in the areas of mind, body and spirit. An example of a positive mindset goal could be “Write one positive affirmation per day,” instead of “I want to gain confidence.” A healthy body related goal could be “Move my body for 10 minutes, 3 days per week,” instead of “I want to lose weight.” Spiritual goals are often overlooked, but can make a big difference in life balance. A spiritual goal might look like “Spend 10 minutes appreciating nature daily.” When we look at balance in all 3 areas of life, it’s a recipe to thrive!
A coach is a great resource to guide you through the process if you get stuck. To achieve real change this year, set goals not resolutions. See what a difference it can make!
Kelly Gutowski, LCSW is a Counselor, Coach and Clinical Social Worker at Open Doors Counseling, Coaching and Consulting. Learn more at www.opendoorscounselingaz.com